Lady, 36 - 24 ноября 2012 13:11

Love at first sight VS Lust at first sight!

As the title suggests, how can you tell the difference between the 2 and how sure are you about it?

When I was younger, I could mix up the 2 aspects upon the first meeting, falling head over heels for someone I felt strongly physically attracted to could mean (then) I loved him upon first sight. Now to me loving or being in love with someone means accepting him the way he is with flaws and all, after getting passed through the physical attraction. So to me love at first sight is practically non-existent now.

The difference between love and lust? as I can see now and can describe is...

If you were close enough and had the means to do so, would you drop everything to go to the other person if they needed you? If yes, you are definitely getting into the loving the person range.... but there is more to it than that. When you REALLY love someone you always think about the other person in more ways than the physical - "if I did X what would happen to the other person?" It is respecting the other person, and caring about how your actions and reactions will affect the other person.

If "you" do something which could potentially make someone lose their job - even if you are in another country - then you have shown a lack of respect to that person and the love is not love.... it is lust - be that lust either physical or mental... for companionship or commitment. Lust has many forms, but there is no respect in it. It wants something and makes the mind fixate on that thing until it is satisfied.

Love can also be killed by the receiver or the giver's actions. If you promise yourself to more than one person then you are being disloyal and lustful. This is wrong. To love is to commit and want to make the other person happy. It is to trust - completely - and know your "partner" you have chosen will return the trust in the same manner. Trust is definitely not instant, and takes time to grow, and just as actions can kill love, they can also kill trust. Once trust is broken.... love quickly follows (in my experience).

You can not love a person if you can not trust them, and trust is essential to get beyond lust. It is the inside of a person - their soul - which teaches them which way is the right way to go... conviction, honor, self discipline, humility, self understanding, and much more that leads a person to be able to know and ascertain if they really love someone....

The saddest of all; however, is the person in the world who has never know what love really is....

What's your take on this?

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